SoLiLoQuy

Friday, April 24, 2009

[[IT and me]]

maybe studying too much IT is making me go mad
but perhaps it did me some good afterall
but i had sudden realisations and i managed to relate them to reality
sounds dumb but it's true

IT taught me there is no perfect accounting package to suit a company's needs
no matter whether it is self-developed or externally bought from vendors
there are bound to be benefits gained at the expense of some costs
in the real world, there is no perfect solution
in the same way, there is no such thing as a perfect match of people's characters
no perfect match in a relationship or friendship as well
people are all different
and we can't be totally alike to fit each other's requirements and expectations of each other
between people, to solve this problem,
there is only tolerance or acceptance or compromise

for package implementation into an enterprise
there are some stuff i found particularly applicable to human relationships and friendships

1) implementation without modification
- which means one works around the system, living with the alternatives in the system
and adjusting the business needs to fit the system, instead of making the system fit you

and if that is not acceptable,
IT says there is an alternative
Customisation

2) customisation without modifying software
- which means you change certain aspects without changing the core of it

3) source code modification
-which means u change the entire thing itself, internally as well

maybe i see the picture
u can't force anyone to change his/her entire character for you or anyone
afterall that is what makes each individual unique isnt it?
no wonder IT says source code modification should be avoided!!
hahas
as in it is not fair to ask someone to change entirely for you

the most common approach is customisation without modifying software
for love or friendship, there is compromise, acceptance
hence people are willing to change certain aspects of themselves
for others that they care for and love

but if one really cannot change, then there is always implementation without modification
learning to work around the current system or rather just living with what the system provides for u
sometimes just pure acceptance of another person's flaws and faults or even simply things u cannot understand can be a sort of beauty in itself rights?
isn't it how it makes love the most wonderful and greatest thing of all

no wonder the bible tells me that
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
Love never fails....And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of them all is Love.

therefore lord,
teach me to accept people for who they are
accept things that i do not understand
things that i may think differently from them
to look beyond the little things
and focus on
the beautiful imperfections that they possess that make them so exquisitely unique
to love them for they are
because you created them in your own image and in your own way

wishing upon a star at...|6:04 PM|

[[]]

Don't go away -By2

Looking through your eyes, there’s nothing to hide
And you’re no longer mine
How could I survive when you say goodbye
Why do birds still fly up high?

Can’t stop the tears from fallin’
We used to be so fine when you walked into my life
I tried to reach out for you just to be with you
My heart is breakin’

Don’t Don’t Go Away
Baby, don’t you know, I miss you so.
Don’t Don’t Go Away,
I’ve never been on my own before.

Wooh…. Oh….
Can’t you hear me just take me with you
So don’t don’t go away

Don’t Don’t Go Away,
Baby, don’t you know, I miss you so.
Don’t Don’t Go Away,
I’ve never been on my own before.
So won’t you feel my heartbeat once more

i love this song....

wishing upon a star at...|3:00 AM|

[[acceptance]]

i realise that sometimes everything boils down to acceptance
acceptance of who a person is
acceptance of one's character or actions or words
and loving and caring for others as they are

actually isit acceptance or tolerance?
i can no longer differentiate the two...
or isit really just about trust

god tells us to love everyone
but sometimes my human nature takes over
and make it so hard to practice this
sighz

i have come to terms with myself
to not being afraid of letting others see what i really think or what's deep inside of me
i know i am complicated and think like super duper alot more than prob anyone else
maybe i think too much in fact
but i am still me

i no longer wan to hide my blog
or my feelings when i write here
because it will not be real if i hide them
and it defeats the purpose of having a blog rites
i mean after all it's an avenue for me to vent and record my life happenings
but maybe after this
i tink i need to learn to be more tactful
like i have always been trying to learn
to not hurt others in the process of going abt my daily life
to not hurt others at the expense of my unintentional words
i still have alot more to learn i guess
to learn to stop and think abt the consequences of my actions

maybe i should not bother too much abt certain things
i have to look at the bigger picture
that sometimes by just learning to tolerate makes things alot better
not everything have to be trashed out
or vented out
cox others might not understand what i really feel inside
or rather i might be just simply having irrational thoughts
and being unreasonable
perhaps i shld take a step back and see what others are doing too
that i am not the only one who is affected
yet they are not blowing up the same way as i intended to do
maybe this way, everything will be better
conflicts will be avoided and misunderstandings will not occur

but
the disappointment i feel hurts me
the anger in me shames me
the sadness in me rebukes me

thanks roomie for speaking to me
u made me feel alot better
made me see a different perspective
and understood the irrationality of my thoughts
wondered why others might not understand me at times
or might have a different mindset from me
and do things differently
and at that moment, u made me felt that frens really are precious
:)

joycie: loved gossiping with ya today, made me feel like we were back in secondary school

i really miss the secondary school days where we used to chat non-stop in class, during recess
saw a photo of the 3 of us in yr 1 of uni
we looked so innocent then
we still do!
ahahs

the simple pleasures in life makes u feel that life is worth living.

and even if u dun unstd, can u still accept me?

wishing upon a star at...|2:18 AM|

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